When One of You Wants to Be Intimate and the Other Does Not

5 Research-based Ways Women Address Mismatched in Sex Drive

“Sexual difference is probably the issue in our time which could be our ‘salvation’ if we thought it through.” -Luce Irigaray

Research on sexuality has historically been portrayed from a male point of view, a tendency reflected in culture at large. The world has been male-dominated, a state of affairs coming under fire notably in the political realm as a trend toward female leadership begins to take shape.

This was highlighted in former president Barak Obama’s proclamation that women are “indisputably better” than men, and that if women ran the world, it would be a better place, right away. It’s strange to have that message coming from a man in his position, if not surprising as he straddles many worlds. Sad that the message is so powerful coming from a male, even in 2020, speaking to the persistence of gender inequality.

Bedroom Identities

When it comes to bedroom, the power dynamic remains more or less neanderthal, woke culture notwithstanding. In spite of some evolutionary change, men are on average still seen as having a right to demand sex, women are more likely to feel obligated to provide sex-even when it does not suit them-and coercion and abuse remain more likely perpetrated by men against women.