Part 2 in a review of psychoanalytic work on how we do what we do to each other.

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Part 1: A review of psychoanalytic work on how we do what we do to each other.

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Provocative new research opens up dialogue about less familiar aspects of male desire and need to be wanted.

  • Interviews with heterosexual men in relationships revealed that feeling desired was “very important” to the vast majority.
  • Only 12 percent of men reported that their partners made them feel as sexually desired as they wanted to feel.
  • Expressions of desire include compliments, dirty talk, and communicating about sex, flirting, romantic touch, and initiating sex.
  • Sexual scripts and stereotypes can be limiting. Recognizing that men and women both want to feel desired may contribute to healthier relationships.


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New research looks at core drivers of sexual dissatisfaction and enjoyment.

  • “Good-enough sex” does not have to be perfect, but requires collaboration from each partner.
  • Sexual boredom is associated with reduced overall well-being, and also with personality factors such as narcissism (which correlates with overall proneness to boredom) and with other risky behaviors.
  • Men generally report greater sexual boredom than do women.
  • The widely-held assumption that sexual satisfaction will decline can undermine good sex, even for long-partnered couples.

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Formal analysis of life narratives reveals what moves us beyond ourselves.


New research shows where recovery from depression and perfectionism may be helped by targeting the connections between them.

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Types of perfectionism


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New research looks at how a surprisingly useful simple daily practice can not only alleviate pain and improve function but also give people a greater sense of control over pain.


Research on how trauma is transmitted identifies key behaviors parents can fix

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Research and theory are revealing factors that can either hold us back or when harnessed lead us toward authenticity and self-realization.

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“[F]or a living creature to have evolved rich capabilities of perception and categorization but to be constitutionally incapable of focusing any of that apparatus onto itself would be highly anomalous. Its selective neglect would be pathological, and would threaten its survival” — I Am A Strange Loop, Douglas Hofstadter


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Clever research reveals how and why narcissistic people over-value self-image.

Mirror mirror on the wall, am I the fairest one of all?

Grant H Brenner

Psychiatrist, Psychoanalyst, Entrepreneur, Writer, Speaker, Advocate

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