How to Keep Blame from Ruining Your World

Relinquishing blame and replacing it with forgiveness enhances personal responsibility.

Reactive people… are often affected by their physical environment. They find external sources to blame for their behavior.-Stephen Covey

Blame is the enemy of curiosity, and curiosity is a major factor in what allows us to have the mental flexibility required to learn from adversity.

Blame ultimately divests us of responsibility for our actions, and prevents us from holding others accountable, replacing forgiveness, acceptance, gratitude, compassion, love, respect and so on, with hostility, aggression, and disappointment.

Replacing self-blame with personal responsibility is a game-changer. Freeing oneself from fear of being blamed is a game-changer. Replacing frustration with curiosity… is a game-changer.

Forgiveness does not mean remaining a willing victim, but it does free one from the constraints inherent in a blame-based attack/defense view of the world and other people.

Getting to Curiosity

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