When Is It Good to Brag, and When Is It Ill-Advised?

New research on self-enhancement in personal and professional relationships.

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KEY POINTS

• Bragging is seen as a social liability, but that’s overly simplistic; sometimes we need to share positives with others.
• Bragging is problematic in many cases, but fear of being seen as a braggart can interfere with intimacy in close relationships.
• Learning how to distinguish when bragging is negative and when sharing positive news is healthy is a key achievement.

We are socialized that it is bad to brag. And, it often is — perhaps, by definition, always given that bragging almost never has a positive spin. With the possible exception of “bragging rights” — in which boldly building oneself up is earned and therefore, socially sanctioned, bragging is out.

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